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Dating Out of Your Age Range?
For years there have been debates on choosing
a relationship based on age. Is it fair to discriminate on age, and, if so,
when is the cut-off point? If it is wrong to date someone twenty years younger
when you're 38, why is it okay when you're 58? There have been numerous articles
that claim it's okay to take a younger, or older, lover - they claim it's
okay for a fun-time, but that you just shouldn't have a full out relationship
with these people. Usually the writer makes a claim that there are too many
differences, and, in general, it is not a good combination to make for a
long term, successful relationship.
Yes, there are obvious lifestyle differences
and/or biological 'lapses', but there are many other reasons which have been
listed to convince people not to date outside their own age range. If you
have met a man you like and he is either younger or older these concerns
may have entered your mind. However, there are positives and negatives to
any relationship! The following article may help you make a wise and final
decision.
The facts are that normally most people are
going to be attracted to a certain type. If you like older people
it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, and the same can be said if you
like younger people. Older men have the ability to have sex and to want love
just as much as younger guys do, and just because someone is younger it doesn't
necessarily mean they are going to lack all their senses or maturity - it
just means that they are a different age then you. But you should be aware!
Just because you are more attracted to a certain age group does not always
mean the right guy for you will fit into that box.
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For this article we are going to deal more with younger
men dating older men. First, it is important to realize two things. One,
you are only as old as you feel, and, two, this entire process of dating
out of your age range is going to depend on your own perception of aging.
If you are 25 and do not feel someone in his 50's is older, or too old, then
there is nothing wrong with dating him. It's going to be about your own opinion
so you should ignore most of what you heard and go on feelings and chemistry
rather than what your friends are saying.
You can believe many things - but in the end
you are never truly going to change who you are attracted to. If you like
buff guys with feminine attitudes then that is what you should look for.
You would be shocked at the number of gay men that know what they want but
when they go hunting for it, be it on the internet, or in public, they choose
the exact opposite, or they seek to do that. The best thing you can do
before you choose any type of a man is to decide exactly what
type of man you are looking for.
If you are looking for a man to fool around
with then age isn't going to be something that matters. If you choose someone
young or old for one night you can choose based on eye candy factor alone.
If you want a relationship you may need to dig into your personal expectations
and decide what you want and from what type of person.
It's true if you're looking for a more settled
relationship with someone that is able to offer commitment you may want to
choose someone slightly older. The average 19-year-old man is looking to
party, and to have a good time - not to settle down. On the other
hand the average 40-year-old is going to be looking for a more stable
relationship. If you don't fit in your age range you might want to find someone
that meets your ideals no matter their age. If you are interested and attracted,
that's all that should matter.
The point is that you should never look at one
factor of a person and decide to be with them, or not, based on that factor.
By discarding a lover, or boyfriend, based solely on their age you are ruining
the chance to find the love of your life…or something phenomenal
in bed if that is what you are looking for. You'll never know what's
out there until you find it - so make sure (when you do) that you are open-minded
enough to except all that is there and all that is being offered to you.
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